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Should I Pay Off My New Spouse's "Porn Debt" So We Can Have a Solid Financial Start?
We KNOW this episode title sounds crazy! But, many partners of porn/sex addicts face some hard decisions about where to "draw boundaries"...
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Jun 13, 20231 min read
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Is There a “Statute of Limitations” on Feelings, Betrayal Trauma and Disclosure?
In Episode 178, Mark and Steve address an all-too-common situation and question faced and asked by porn/sex addicts in recovery and their...
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Jun 6, 20231 min read
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How do I Stop Comparing Myself to Porn and His Sexual Fantasies?
In Episode 177, Mark and Steve address a very heart-felt question sent in by a PBSE listener— "My partner recently came clean to me about...
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May 30, 20231 min read
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If “Sex is Optional,” How can a Couple Possibly Stay Connected?!
In this episode Mark and Steve address a super common question—if "sex is optional" in a relationship, then how can a couple possibly...
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May 23, 20232 min read
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How Can We Avoid the Traps and Pitfalls of Addiction Recovery and Betrayal Trauma Healing?
Episode 175 finds Steve and his wife on vacation on the island of Hilo in Hawaii. Hilo is the site of an actual "active" volcano. While...
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May 16, 20231 min read
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What Keeps us Stuck in Addiction and What Does “Real” Recovery Look Like?
The partners of sex/porn addicts can find it difficult or near impossible to discern whether or not their partner is still "stuck in...
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May 9, 20232 min read
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What Happens When we “Weaponize” What Could be “Healthy Boundaries”?
Healthy Boundaries are CRITICAL to our individual happiness and authenticity—AND—to our connection as a couple. But when we're not...
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May 2, 20232 min read
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“Normal Human Attraction” vs. “Toxic/Betraying Lust”?
In Episode 172, Mark and Steve tackle a topic that is extremely difficult, triggering and traumatizing for the partners of porn/sex...
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Apr 25, 20232 min read
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What can I do about “Random ED Symptoms” in Sexual Intimacy with my Partner?!
Erectile Dysfunction (ED) is a VERY common challenge among those struggling with porn/sex addiction AND also common for addicts in...
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Apr 18, 20232 min read
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What can I do about “Random ED Symptoms” in Sexual Intimacy with my Partner?!
Erectile Dysfunction (ED) is a VERY common challenge among those struggling with porn/sex addiction AND also common for addicts in...
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Apr 18, 20232 min read
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Is There a Place for Sexual Boundaries in Your Coupleship?
Once an addict starts into recovery and his partner begins her journey of healing betrayal trauma, a couple should immediately look at...
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Apr 11, 20231 min read
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As a Partner in Betrayal Trauma, I Feel Resentment Toward my Addict Partner. How do I Manage this?!
In episode 169, Mark and Steve address a very raw and real scenario and question from the partner of a porn/sex addict. As a partner...
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Apr 4, 20232 min read
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How a lifetime of “Communication Trauma” can prevent “Healthy Connection” in the Here and Now.
We have all suffered from "communication trauma" in our life experiences! This can too easily get in the way and/or sabotage healthy...
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Mar 28, 20232 min read
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The “Fallacy of Fairness”—Why I Cannot Stand Up For Myself with my Partner.
In this episode, Mark & Steve address a PBSE listener's question about WHY she has trouble standing her ground, having a voice, speaking...
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Mar 21, 20231 min read
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W/hat Does a Formal, Full “Disclosure” Look Like?
In this episode, Mark and Steve review what is an often mismanaged or overlooked “critical” part of porn/sex addiction recovery and...
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Mar 14, 20231 min read
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Copy of Having Trouble with “Couples Check-ins”? Give this a Shot.
What is a "Couples Check-in" and WHY is it so ESSENTIAL to your relationship success? What are the BARRIERS to the Couples Check-in? How...
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Mar 8, 20231 min read
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Having Trouble with “Couples Check-ins”? Give this a Shot.
What is a "Couples Check-in" and WHY is it so ESSENTIAL to your relationship success? What are the BARRIERS to the Couples Check-in? How...
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Mar 7, 20231 min read
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Regarding boundaries & consequences in recovery & healing, what is “my side of the street" vs "his"?
In this episode, Mark and Steve address what can often be a confusing topic for couples—when it comes to recovery, healing, boundaries...
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Feb 28, 20232 min read
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Is all this “Recovery & Healing Crap” really Worth it? Hope for Couples.
Recovery from Porn/Sex Addiction and healing from Betrayal Trauma are HUGE commitments, take a long time and are HARD work. It can be...
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Feb 21, 20231 min read
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Stop Focusing on your "Addiction Symptoms” and Get to your Core Issues!
Too often, those struggling with porn/sex addiction focus primarily on their outward addiction behaviors--the "symptoms" of addiction....
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Feb 14, 20231 min read
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